{"id":256,"date":"2005-09-01T23:14:44","date_gmt":"2005-09-01T23:14:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/j.unoccupied.org\/?p=256"},"modified":"2005-09-01T23:14:44","modified_gmt":"2005-09-01T23:14:44","slug":"deleting-people-on-aim","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/j.unoccupied.org\/?p=256","title":{"rendered":"deleting people on AIM"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>When my powerbook broke, I had to use my desktop.  Rather than signing into AIM, I signed into my trillian that I had installed months before but hadn\\&#8217;t logged in for months.<\/p>\n<p>But the moment I did that, the people I had deleted from my list in those months reappeared.  It\\&#8217;s strange how these names carry so much meaning.  Each person is associated with one single screenname, but I can remember their history.  So I can know 250 different people and remember every single thing about them.  The interaction I had with them.  The reason why and how they got on my aim list.  Is it because I associate so much with each person, is that normal?  <\/p>\n<p>According to my count, there are 75 people I deleted ever since I left Berkeley (the last time I really used Trillian).  Those 75 people mattered less to me then when I moved to Pittsburgh.  They were the ones that I kept on my list just in case.  The ones that I thought I would talk to, but decided that it wasn\\&#8217;t worth it.  And deleted them.  But because of the way Trillian is built, it tries to put the deleted ones back in.  A comparision of the old list with the new.<\/p>\n<p>So here I have&#8230;<br \/>\nAlston &#8211; someone who I had liked during my freshman year, but things fell apart toward the end; he was weird.<br \/>\nArden &#8211; Cliff\\&#8217;s friend, my sister\\&#8217;s friend<br \/>\nJean &#8211; he who I must not speak of<br \/>\nJiong &#8211; my neighbor across the hall who never stopped making fun of me, he got annoying when I moved out<br \/>\nStacee\\&#8217;s friend &#8211; I don\\&#8217;t even know his name anymore, I think I got mad at him or something<br \/>\nAjay &#8211; I still have yet to meet him in person, Noah\\&#8217;s friend<br \/>\nHaywood &#8211; Karen\\&#8217;s friend<br \/>\nthat girl who was so overly religious and annoyingly attention-loving &#8211; god, she was too young and I didn\\&#8217;t have the patience<br \/>\nmatt &#8211; still have his other sn<br \/>\nmike &#8211; got too ljish<br \/>\nchanning &#8211; got a gf<br \/>\njulie &#8211; I decided that we couldn\\&#8217;t be friends<br \/>\njason &#8211; for the purpose of going to duluth<br \/>\nsome girl &#8211; i don\\&#8217;t know who<br \/>\nsome guy i met on icq<br \/>\nnorbert &#8211; the guy from my senior prom, what a waste of time<br \/>\nlin &#8211; i got mad at her my freshman year and things never got better<br \/>\ndesmond &#8211; it never progressed between our friendship in class<br \/>\nstacy &#8211; it got very annoying toward the end of high school<br \/>\nchanning\\&#8217;s other sn<br \/>\nxing\\&#8217;s other sn<br \/>\nzhibo &#8211; never really talked that much after 160<br \/>\nsherri &#8211; i was good friends with her freshman year, but after that&#8230;we just went on different paths and we didn\\&#8217;t bothered to keep in touch<br \/>\nhaywood\\&#8217;s gf<br \/>\nhansel &#8211; i don\\&#8217;t remember why we don\\&#8217;t talk online<br \/>\njason &#8211; after the rob incident, things just didn\\&#8217;t progress.  he used to call me cornbread, an affectionate name i suppose<br \/>\nsome guy<br \/>\nmike &#8211; he was so whiny, so emo, didn\\&#8217;t work out after the rob\/dan thing<br \/>\nemmy &#8211; met him on a cruise ship, we just couldn\\&#8217;t keep in touch<br \/>\nkent &#8211; i am too smart for him<br \/>\nsome guy from LA<br \/>\nscott &#8211; a guy who totally had a crush with me, but then i must have gotten mad him, online fling<br \/>\nsteve\\&#8217;s cousin &#8211; also some stupid argument<br \/>\nrichard &#8211; had liked him the day i met him, but you know things just drift apart<br \/>\ni don\\&#8217;t know who this is<br \/>\nsteve &#8211; after the rob\/dan thing, it fell apart; he is such an azn, a disappointing one at that<br \/>\nlinda &#8211; my former roommate, didn\\&#8217;t work out of course<br \/>\njohn &#8211; some idiot from msu<br \/>\ncat &#8211; didn\\&#8217;t work out<br \/>\nalex &#8211; some guy from my california asian cup<br \/>\nemily &#8211; my old roommate<br \/>\nsharon &#8211; my groupmate from 160<br \/>\ni don\\&#8217;t know who this is either<br \/>\npaul &#8211; one of those internet connections<br \/>\nxing &#8211; another sn<br \/>\ntiffany &#8211; haven\\&#8217;t really kept in touch after i graduated<br \/>\nxing &#8211; another sn<br \/>\nmae &#8211; she doesn\\&#8217;t trust me and thus i couldn\\&#8217;t trust her judgment.  bad things lead to more bad things.<br \/>\ndan &#8211; another worthless sn<br \/>\nsimon &#8211; another disastrous sn<br \/>\nellen &#8211; for the sake of talking to my sister\\&#8217;s friend<br \/>\njon &#8211; after the rob\/dan thing, nothing was the same anymore<br \/>\njohn &#8211; still the idiot from msu<br \/>\ntom &#8211; sister\\&#8217;s bf, didn\\&#8217;t see much point of keeping him on my list<br \/>\nalbert &#8211; just some kid<br \/>\nsimon &#8211; another sn<br \/>\nwho is this and why does everyone call themselves sunlit<br \/>\nmarisol &#8211; bad things happened and so do regrets, but alas what we can we do<br \/>\nsimon &#8211; my supervisor my junior year, but as things do we just don\\&#8217;t talk after he graduated<br \/>\nken &#8211; i was too sensitive, and things happened&#8230;and i just couldn\\&#8217;t help it<br \/>\nhien &#8211; she never went online, she stayed close to her family which was good but i never saw her, i never understood her well enough to understand her values<br \/>\neddie &#8211; yeah whatever dude<br \/>\nleo &#8211; i think there were reasons<br \/>\nah, another sn<br \/>\njennifer &#8211; former roommate freshman year<br \/>\nmarisol &#8211; another sn<br \/>\nah yet another sn<br \/>\ntravis &#8211; they don\\&#8217;t do always well<br \/>\nanother sn of that mexican boy<br \/>\npriscilla &#8211; heard that she got married, but didn\\&#8217;t know her that well enough to keep in touch after high school<br \/>\nkeith &#8211; some guy i vaguely knew from danville<br \/>\nhansel &#8211; possibly another sn<br \/>\ni just don\\&#8217;t remember who this is&#8230;<br \/>\nclare &#8211; hi.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When my powerbook broke, I had to use my desktop. Rather than signing into AIM, I signed into my trillian that I had installed months before but hadn\\&#8217;t logged in for months. But the moment I did that, the people I had deleted from my list in those months reappeared. It\\&#8217;s strange how these names &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/j.unoccupied.org\/?p=256\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading <span class=\"screen-reader-text\">deleting people on AIM<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-256","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-general"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/j.unoccupied.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/256","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/j.unoccupied.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/j.unoccupied.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/j.unoccupied.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/j.unoccupied.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=256"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/j.unoccupied.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/256\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/j.unoccupied.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=256"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/j.unoccupied.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=256"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/j.unoccupied.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=256"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}